Comedian and talk show host Teju Oyelakin, popularly known as Teju Babyface, has sparked intense online debate after urging married men never to confess to cheating, calling such admissions “catastrophic and unnecessary.”
In a viral video making rounds on social media, the Teju Babyface Show host said men who cheat once should resist the urge to “come clean” to their wives, arguing that confession often destroys relationships rather than repairing them.
“If you cheat, don’t confess. Ever,” Teju stated firmly. “Confession is one of the most destructive things you can do in a marriage.”
The veteran entertainer criticized the popular notion—often backed by religious reasoning—that confession is a moral duty. According to him, repentance should be between an individual and God, not their spouse.
He explained that many who confess do so for selfish reasons, often to ease personal guilt or to subconsciously sabotage their relationship. “That’s not honesty; that’s manipulation,” he said.
Teju Babyface admitted that before marriage, he once cheated in a serious relationship and confessed. In hindsight, he described the move as cowardly rather than noble, saying his confession was an excuse to end the relationship, not to make amends.
“It wasn’t about truth—it was about wanting a way out,” he confessed.
He also made a distinction between a single act of infidelity and a pattern of cheating. “Cheating once doesn’t make you a cheater,” he explained. “A cheater is someone who re
Rather than confessing, Teju advised men burdened by guilt to seek spiritual or professional guidance. “Talk to God, a priest, a therapist, or a trusted confidant,” he said. “But don’t destroy your marriage with the truth you can manage privately.”
He encouraged those who have strayed to focus on change—stop cheating, show love, and rebuild trust through consistent action.
Teju’s comments have drawn fierce criticism across social media, with many accusing him of promoting dishonesty and undermining accountability in relationships. Critics argue that true repentance requires transparency, while others support his stance, insisting that brutal honesty can sometimes do more harm than good.
The discussion has opened a broader conversation about the ethics of truth-telling in marriage: should partners always reveal painful truths, or can silence sometimes preserve peace?
Regardless of public opinion, Teju Babyface’s message has ignited a necessary debate about guilt, forgiveness, and the fine line between honesty and harm in modern relationships.
