In a world where timelines and traditions often dictate the rhythm of life, Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa is dancing to her own beat—and she’s doing it unapologetically.
On a recent episode of her candid podcast, Toke Moments, the outspoken host peeled back the glossy layers of public perception to share the raw, unfiltered truths of her personal journey. In a moment that has since gone viral and sparked fresh conversations about modern womanhood in Nigeria, Makinwa declared:
“Regret is so exhausting; get comfortable with your truth. The hardest thing I could say to myself is, ‘Geez, I am 40, single, and childless.’ I said it, and I did not die!”
That bold statement, layered with both vulnerability and strength, underscored her broader message: fulfillment isn’t defined by society’s checkboxes of marriage and motherhood—it’s defined by authenticity.
Once married to fitness entrepreneur Maje Ayida, Makinwa’s highly publicized divorce in 2017, following allegations of infidelity, shaped a new chapter of her life. But instead of letting the past dictate her future, she chose to evolve.
Reflecting on the pressure to remarry, she mused:
“If I had gotten married again, I would probably have been divorced again. I wasn’t ready. I had more growing to do.”
Toke also took a moment to quash recent rumors linking her romantically to her longtime friend Farouk Umar, clarifying that there’s no romance—just friendship. “I’m not secretly married,” she laughed, brushing off the speculation with her signature wit.
But perhaps the most eye-catching revelation came when she jokingly entertained the idea of joining a polygamous marriage, saying she’d consider becoming a third, fourth or fifth wife—if the opportunity and the man were worth it. It was a cheeky remark, but one that echoed her larger message: live your truth, no matter how unconventional it may seem.
With every episode, Makinwa continues to challenge long-held norms and embolden others to reclaim their narrative. Her story isn’t just about being single at 40. It’s about power, choice, and embracing the life that’s true to you—even if it doesn’t come with a ring or a crib.
In Toke’s world, there are no timelines—just lessons, growth, and the fierce freedom to be who you are.
